Random Kiddo Pic Jan 2021

 

Climbing the Mini Spider Web

This is the first time 阳阳 managed to climb up mini-spider web at the playground. And once he knew and to get up and down, he kept repeating and repeating. Unlike 萱萱, he seems to be more afraid of taking any physical challenges. So it's nice to see him getting more athletic and brave.

Prepping Birthday Goodie Bags

Meimei is getting the kids to help out on the birthday goodie bags this year. It helps them appreciate the effort and chore of prepping the gifts.

阳阳 is still too young to understand though but that's ok. The more important thing is to train him to be disciplined and not take any stuff out of the bags. As for 萱萱 she is loving the activity and is excited to present the gifts to her friends.

Popping Tiles In The Toilet

No idea how it happened but it looks dangerous. For the moment I don't think the tiles will fall but we have to be careful.

Hoping it's just minor repairs works. I worry that the hollowness extends to the cabinets. That'll bring an even bigger headache especially if we need to redo the walls around the bathroom. Haiz.

Pillow Convert

Today is a good day. Today is the day Meimei acknowledges the beauty of chouchou. The softness and the calmness it brings as it rests over your head and chest. Welcome to the world of fluffiness.

Feeding 弟弟

I always marvel at 萱萱 when she is playing big sis and looking after 阳阳. She is the best big sister any kid would be lucky to have. I hope she continues to be this selfless caring wonder as she grows up and encounters other experiences in life.

A 2nd Class In My Own Home

I was shouted at in my own home on Monday and Friday because I asked a question that our queen didn't like to hear. What's wrong with asking if there was fruit for the children? The worst part is that there was little I could do other than shout back. Even that was useless as she is now the queen of the house.

Who is this queen? She is our Indonesian maid Siti that has stepped over me, Meimei, Nyama and everyone else in the household. She now decides whether she likes what she hears or not. And if she doesn't you can bet she will shout back at you with 4-5 sentences and berating you for being stupid.

It used to be that I would be asked to ask her to do something as she is more obedient when hearing instructions from me. However that has now changed. Probably she thinks because her Singaporean boyfriend is going to marry her, she is now our equal or maybe even superior to us. We are mere pawns and dirt she has to put up with before she can brush us aside.

Now I know how Nyama feels. The injustice, the betrayal, the pend up inability to get back at her. I had previously told Nyama to ignore it and walk away or quote my name to get what she wants. I now know I've let her down badly. There is no solving this other than the removal of the antagonist. Well, at least Nyama can decide not to come over to our house anymore as a means to get away. I, on the other hand, do not have any other place to go.

So what can I do? Suck it up? Cower in fear any question or comment I say to the queen will make her upset and shout at me again?

Oh and I will not forget all the verbal abuse the kids had to endure because she was in a bad mood. 萱萱 had to suffer her scolding because Siti didn't like that 萱萱 didn't follow her instructions. Just 2 weeks ago, 萱萱 was helping me with pampers and oil for 阳阳 when Siti called her to go bath. And because 萱萱 was helping me she couldn't go to Siti fast enough and was reprimanded till she was sobbing and crying. Can you imagine the fear and emotional trauma 萱萱 had to go through? What could I do ... I could only shout back at her and then 萱萱 and I had to endure days of sarcastic remarks berating 萱萱 for complaining. How cowardly and inapt I've become that I cannot protect my own children.

I think the blame lies squarely on myself. For ignoring the burden and indignity that Nyama has suffered, closing both eyes and subjecting 萱萱 and 阳阳 to unjust temper, for being lazy to take up the mettle of taking care of the children and household chores, for being self absorbed in entertainment on the phone. It's all because of my inaction over the years that has cumulated in this.

Is it too late to remedy it? No idea, but what I do know is now is the time for action. Enough talk, swift execution and action before I regret or repeat my mistakes again.

阳阳's First Swimming Lesson

First swimming lesson for 阳阳. We're not sure if it would work out. Due to Covid we are unable to enter the swimming pools to watch over him or help him change after the lesson. 萱萱 started when she was four and we are clearly starting way earlier with 阳阳. We are banking on 萱萱 watching and helping 阳阳.

阳阳 suffered a scare and probably swallowed a few gulps of pool water when he fell in during the lesson. He was inching closer and closer to the edge as he splashed the water with his legs. And then somehow he fell forward into the pool. Luckily coach pulled him out of the water quickly. 

Other than that it turned out pretty ok. 萱萱 is the best 姐姐 any kid could ask for. She readily helped 阳阳 with his bag and float without prompting. We can pull this off because 萱萱 was there.

New Year 2021

My 2020 resolution was to spend more time with family. And Covid-19 kinda made sure of that as we have had to work from home since March.

This year's resolution is the same, spending time with family. 萱萱 is in K2 this year and so this year is last of where we can schedule trips or holidays outside of school terms. Unfortunately due to Covid we could not go overseas for holidays but hopefully we can plan some activities occasionally.